Admit To Bitter

Things are going to suck, eventually. The reality of life is that, every relationship is going to face challenges. There are going to be illnesses. Family struggles. Disagreements. Disappointments. Reality. The sooner you understand, things are not going to be perfect, the sooner you'll be able to accept all phases of a relationship. Good and bad. You've got to lose a lot before you win. So, you've been on 3 dates and you'ready to give up? Dating is a lot But, if you never play, then you're guaranteed to not win. You are expecting way too much from people. You absolutely need to set a certain level of standards for yourself, with 1 million percent certainty. You need to make sure you never settle for less than you deserve and only give your time to people who truly earn it. We need to understand that, we need to make compromises at times and accept people for who they are, not who we want them to be. You are obsessed with recreating a fantasy land. Your favorite Insta couple, with 6 bazillion followers, is currently self-eating in Tahiti, while skydiving off of a waterfall, flexing their perfect abs and landing on unicorns before riding off into the sunset. Stop comparing your behind the scenes with someone else's highlight reel. You don't need the picture perfect relationship, you just need one that makes you happy and fulfilled. You can't get more than you give. Too many people, hold their partner, to higher standards than they hold themselves. You want someone who does crossfit 5 days, a week, and trains for triathlons in their spare time, but you can't wait to finish off that box of hot pockets when you get home from your 26 second stroll around the backyard? All jokes aside, this isn't about physical fitness, this is about lifestyle and general effort put into yourself and your relationship. Do not hold expectations for other people that you would not meet yourself. Nothing is ever going to be how you pictured it. If you want the golden retriever white picket fence and 2. 5 kids frolicking around the yard while doing cartwheels and waving their little American flags in the air, then you're probably going to be disappointed. One of the beautiful things about relationships is that, we have absolutely no idea what the hell they're going to look Our happiest moments are often, ones that we never saw coming and that's what makes them great. You have to leave, you're past behind you. Your windshield is bigger than your rear view for a reason, the mirror is there to help you glance back at where you've been, but if you focus too much on it, you're going to crash. We are all affected by our past and we are all reminded of it now and again, but we can't live in it. Unless we want to repeat it over and over again. We need to learn from it, take lessons from it, know what's good and not good for us and adjust accordingly. Mistakes are only mistakes until we learn from them and then they become lessons. Thank you. Bye. Bye.